How to Write A Father of the Bride’s Speech

How to Write A Father of the Bride’s Speech – By speech builder.co.uk

There seems to be a long tradition of even longer father of the bride’s speeches. For many people it’s the time to have a quick nap or drift off. But there’s no reason for the wedding party’s elder statesman to send the room into a doze, by following a few simple rules it’s easy to write an engaging and entertaining wedding speech.

“Distinguished guests, those of dubious distinction and those of no distinction, in-laws and outlaws, family and friends, friends of friends, freeloaders, hangers-on, and those of you who came just for a free dinner… I’d like to extend a warm welcome and thank you all for joining us today…”

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The order of the wedding speakers is;

1st  Father of the Bride

2nd  Groom

3rd  Best Man

The father of the bride’s speech is often a little more conservative (it falls on the best man’s shoulders to deliver the real big hitting jokes, mostly aimed at the poor groom). Try and steer clear of jokes everyone has heard before. Too many speeches regurgitate to same tired gags again and again. Be original, if you need a little help head to a site like SpeechBuilder.co.uk where you’ll find thousands of fresh and original wedding speech jokes.

  • Is there anything I have to include?

As well as welcoming and thanking the guests for coming (with special mentions to anyone who has made a particularly long journey) there are two toasts you need to give; the first is “to absent friends” and the second is to the bride and groom which is the perfect way to bring your speech to a close.

  • Don’t forget the bride’s mother what ever you do

While the newlyweds are basking in the joy of their new status, you could find yourself facing the threat of the single life and certainly a few nights on the sofa if you forget to mention the bride’s mum. Make sure you speak on both your behalves and include her in your speech.

  • Keep it light & fun

Yes this is a very emotional occasion but it isn’t the Oscars, it’s a day of celebration and your speech should reflect that. While there will be heartfelt words you’ll want to say to your daughter keep the pace and feel of your speech upbeat. For anything you don’t think you can say in front of the whole wedding party you can always write it in a letter to give to the bride to open on the morning of the wedding (preferably before she’s put on her mascara).

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To keep your speech balanced and well-paced keep to this tried and tested, simple winning formula;

  • Timing is essential

There will be plenty you want to say as well as the formalities you need to fulfil in your role but try to keep your speech to around 7 minutes. A good tip is to practise your speech out loud and then edit it down if it breaks the 10 minute mark (or at least hand out pillows so people can get comfortable!).

  • Opening

Make sure you introduce yourself, yes you are the father of the bride but not everyone will have met you before. Also as the first speaker it’s your role to welcome the guests and thank them all for coming.

  • Jokes, be careful…

The father of the bride’s speech is often a little more conservative (it falls on the best man’s shoulders to deliver the real big hitting jokes, mostly aimed at the poor groom). Try and steer clear of jokes everyone has heard before. Too many speeches regurgitate to same tired gags again and again. Be original, if you need a little help head to a site like SpeechBuilder.co.uk where you’ll find thousands of fresh and original wedding speech jokes.

The Basic Phases

A good father of the bride’s speech can be broken down into key phases to help keep things moving at the right pace and make sure you don’t miss anything;

  • Introduce yourself as not everyone will have met you before. If you can try and start with a light hearted comment to relax everyone.
  • It’s your role to welcome all the guests to the wedding. Give a special mention to the groom’s parents. You should also give the first toast which is to “absent friends”.
  • The Bride – This is your chance to get a little revenge on your daughter for all those teenage years by telling a couple of funny stories. It’s also when you can tell her how proud you and her mother are of her and how much she means to you.
  • Formerly welcome the groom to your family. You can also make a few jokes at his expense or tell him that as the marriage certificate is signed it’s too late for him to send the bride back to you.
  • Fatherly Advice – As the elder statesman of the groomsmen, it falls on you to offer a few wise words of advice to the newlyweds. This is a great opportunity to have fun and get the guests laughing.
  • Traditionally you should bring your speech to a close by asking everyone to stand and raise a glass to the bride and groom.

SpeechBuilder.co.uk is a comprehensive & easy to use online speech building system with over 4,000 wedding speech, jokes, quotes, ice-breakers and funny words of wisdom written by professional comedy writers.

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